This question should be academic. Homosexuality is a sexual orientation, where one adult is sexually and romantically inclined toward people of the same gender. There is no great mystery here, though the origins and root of the situation might be less clear. The fact of the matter is, a portion of the population is oriented toward their own sex. It's just the way it is.
Some people, however, have a problem with that. In fact, they have a problem with wrapping their brains about any element of it. We can argue about the whys and the wherefores, but what we can't argue about is the reality of it.
Unless you wrap religion up in the whole equation. That mucks it all up. Animals don't have this problem. Whether it's seagulls, penguins or monkeys, the gay ones just do what comes naturally. But humans throw religion into the mix. Superstition and tradition wrapped up with holy hellfire confuses everything.
For agnostic gay people like me, there is no problem. I realized at about 14 years old that I was agnostic (with atheistic leanings), and that I was gay. No confusion, no inner struggle. My only conflict was in how others would respond. Fortunately for me, most of my family and friends took it pretty well.
So let me spell it out for you, just in case you don't "get it." A gay person is inclined to form sexual and emotional bonds with others of their own sex. That's it. It isn't about body parts or sexual positions. . .it's just what we are. It isn't about behavior. A gay person is gay whether or not they ever have sex. Opponents of homosexuality (a strange bunch--I mean, what's their interest in this matter?) will try to claim we made a choice, that we're stunted, confused, or just perverted. Um, no. We is just what we is. Not hurting anybody, not trying to convert anybody (honestly, there are plenty of us out there, no need to convert). I didn't wake up one day with the notion of "changing." I woke up one day with the realization of who I am.
Most anti-gay individuals tend to focus on the particulars of gay sex. Which ought to be telling. And the image they lock onto is the one regarding posteriors and the activities performed thereupon. What these folks fail to realize, is that many gay people don't participate in that particular activity. Some do, of course--and there's nothing wrong with that. Ask Dr. Ruth. But surely there are more (by numbers) heterosexuals inclined to the same activity. I personally know gay couples who have been together over 30 years who have never participated in said activity.
But that is what it boils down to. All anti-gay antipathy can pretty much be boiled down to "butt sex." Sorry, but that's the truth. It isn't religion. It isn't tradition. It isn't morality. It's the ick factor. Grow up, people!
It's pretty ridicuous, really. Except for the Rob Lowes and Jessica Albas, most of us look pretty silly no matter what sex we prefer. Probably 90% of us wouldn't pass muster in a skin flick. Whatever you might find "icky" would probably look as much or more so for the rest of us. Am I right? Put a mirror up to your own sex life, and realize that those you find "icky" probably find you equally so.
Now, for another perspective--one that I wholly disagree with--check this out. See who you agree with.
[Excerpt]
Am I Homo Phobic?
The dictionary defines homosexuality as: “Having a desire for someone of the same sex [gender] or the act of having sex with someone of the same sex [gender]. In other words it is a sexual behavior carried out with someone of the same gender. It did not define it as two people of the same gender who happens to love one another. Simply put, both homosexuality and heterosexuality are about sex. One sexual expression is perfectly in line with how nature has designed our bodies for reproductive purposes (it called heterosexuality) and the other is not (this one is called homosexuality). Neither sexual expression has anything to do with love. Both are sexual behaviors expressed through physical contact between two or more people. . .
Read more at (the amusingly titled) Americans for Truth About Homosexuality:
